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The Success Formula that Puts You in Control of Your Destiny

If you want to achieve better outcomes. Remember, you control your destiny … so make it a fantastic one!

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What prevents you from achieving the success you want?

Is it a lack of money, free time, or opportunities at work? Have you not achieved your goals because of the economy, what your business colleagues have done (or not done), or the lack of motivation among your employees? Perhaps you place the blame on how you were raised or on your family for not giving you the proper amount and type of support.

If you responded to my question with a laundry list of reasons why you aren’t where you want to be, you’re not alone. Most people automatically find excuses and blame others when things don’t work out the way they want. This seems to be particularly true in the United States, where many people buy into the myth that we are entitled to success and happiness – that someone else should be giving us what we want.

However, if unlimited success is your goal, looking outside of yourself is a strategic error. The most important lesson you must understand that you are 100 percent responsible for your life – the good and the bad.

The success formula I like to use to explain this concept is:

E + R = O (Events + Responses = Outcome)

The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life (whether it’s success or failure, wealth or poverty, wellness or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event in your life. Likewise, if you want to change the results you get in the future, you must change how you respond to events in your life … starting today.

What Most People Do

When people don’t like the outcomes they are experiencing, most choose to blame the event (E) for their lack of results (O).

In other words, you can blame the economy, the weather, the lack of money, lack of education, racism, gender bias, the current administration in Washington, your wife or husband, your boss’s attitude, the lack of support, and so on. If you’re a golfer, you’ve probably even blamed your clubs or the course you’ve played on – but never yourself. This is what most people do.

It’s true that these factors exist and that they impact you. However, if they were the deciding factor in whether someone succeeded or not, nobody would ever succeed. For every reason it’s not possible, there are hundreds of people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.

The deciding factor in success is not the external conditions and circumstances. It’s how you choose to respond (R).

We think limiting thoughts and engage in self-defeating behaviors. We defend our self-destructive habits (such as drinking and smoking) with indefensible logic.

We ignore useful feedback, fail to continuously educate ourselves and learn new skills, waste time on the trivial aspects of our lives, engage in idle gossip, eat unhealthy food, fail to exercise, spend more than we make, fail to tell the truth, don’t ask for what we want, and then wonder why our lives aren’t working.

What Successful People Do

Successful people take a different approach to events. They simply change their responses (R) to the events (E) until they get the outcomes (O) they want.

You can change your thinking, change your communication, change the pictures you hold in your head (your images of the world) and you can change your behavior (the things you do). That’s all you really have control over anyway.

Unfortunately, most of us are being run by our habits. We get stuck in conditioned responses to our spouses and children, to our work colleagues, to our customers and our clients, to our students, and to the world at large.

You have to gain control of your thoughts, your images, your dreams, daydreams, and your behavior. Everything you think, say, and do need to become intentional and aligned with your purpose, your values, and your goals.

If you don’t like your outcomes, change your responses.

The Formula in Action

You don’t have to look far to find examples of how this works: consider the economy.

When the Gulf War broke out, a friend of mine who owns a Lexus dealership in Southern California turned to this formula to guide him through the resulting impact on the economy. People stopped coming in to buy Lexuses, so he knew that his normal response (R) of running newspaper and radio ads wouldn’t be good enough to keep his business afloat. The outcome (O) he was experiencing was a steady decrease of visitors to his showroom, as well as sales.

So they tried a number of new things. Some didn’t work; some did. One of the strategies that worked was driving a fleet of new cars to where the rich people were – the country clubs, the marinas, polo grounds, parties in Beverly Hills and Westlake Village – and inviting them to take a test drive.

Have you ever test-driven a new car and then gotten back into your old car? Suddenly your old car wasn’t good enough – you wanted the new car! The same thing happened for the people who took a Lexus for a spin, and many bought or leased a new car.

By changing their response (R) to an unexpected event (E) – the war — the dealership eventually got the outcome (O) they wanted … increased sales. In fact, they ended up selling more new cars per week than before the war broke out.

If we all experience the same event, the outcome you get will be totally dependent upon your response to the situation.

Carefully choose how you respond to events – how you choose to interpret events, how you choose to think about and talk about what happened, how you choose to act — If you want to achieve better outcomes. Remember, you control your destiny … so make it a fantastic one!

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Meet Jack Canfield

For over 40 years, he has been teaching entrepreneurs, educators, corporate leaders, and people from all walks of life how to create the life they desire.

As the beloved originator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul(r) series, he's taught millions of individuals his modernized formulas for success, and has trained and certified over 2,700 students to teach his content and methodology in 107 countries around the world.

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Stephen G Kimani

Hallo,Jack
I have already started implementing the big picture”success” bit by bit. Jack, I really appreciate your contributions toward better tomorrow.I like the way you simplify the complex issue with more clarity,understandability,practicability and vividness to the objectivity.

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Alfred kirimih

Thanks Jack, have learnt a new thing. E+R=O

Debi Sullivan
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Debi Sullivan

Thank you Jack – I am new to this path and love the guide post you place along the way!

Juri Saito
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Juri Saito

Thanks for giving me a good coach.I am ready to take action now.You cheer me up!

Sreeraj
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Sreeraj

Jack,
Thank you so much for the session in Bahrain.
It was amazing.

Michael McGillicuddy
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Always important to understand the source of your conditions. It is, has been and always will be you. Your challenge in life is to make yourself the best person you can be !!!!

Ervien Budijatmiko
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Hi Jack,
Thank’s for this nice post. I’m a new beginner to learning this path. Success for you and all people.

Janet
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Janet

Jack,
I’ve been a fan and subscriber of yours for many years now and in my 20+ years of sales training and hours of learning from the best, your equation E+O is by far the one single concept that has had the largest impact on my life. Thank you!!!

Deb Donnell
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E + R = O 
(Events + Responses = Outcome) Event: 22 February 2011 Christchurch Earthquake which destroyed my city, including my parent’s business who I was working for. Response: To use this as a catalyst to take action on my dreams. Outcome: Two published books on the Christchurch Earthquake – one creating a legacy about what we’d lost, the other acknowledging the rescuers who came to help us (the survivors) and both providing some financial assistance to the seriously injured survivors. At the time of the Christchurch Earthquake I was being coached by Jack Canfield Coaching. The Event was… Read more »

Joanne
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Joanne

thanks Deb……………….

Adrian
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Adrian

Great example of “E + R = O”! Thanks for sharing, Deb!! 🙂

Jenny Leyva de Loryn
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Jenny Leyva de Loryn

Hi Deb, I’m helping people with E+R= O do you mind if I share your story please? Of course I’ happy to say this is from you. 🙂 thanks in advance.

Chubby
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Chubby

Wow, that Lexus guy is an awesome example, Jack!
Many people choose to be a victim – they blame others, they act like they’re the victim. So powerless. By being responsible (such as changing how we respond to an event) is the key to success!

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[…] Jack Canfield, the best selling author of Chicken Soup for The Soul, has a very simple formula for everything. E + R = O (Events + Responses = Outcome) To simplify this; every single outcome that you experience in your life is due to your emotional and physical response to an earlier event. (read more about this formula at Jack’s blog here) […]

Kathleen McKay
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Kathleen McKay

I want to thank you Jack for permitting us to use your articles. That’s fantastic as I can’t relay this information any better than you do and it’s really important that people can learn these thins from you. A huge helping of gratitude from me to you, thank you. x

Joanne
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Joanne

hi, i have done your coaching for yr, very $$, and (read your book many times).still stuck. I do your affirmations, grateful journal, called J.C. hotline, but….i found it didnt really help me change my actions. (sorry to say, but honest). Read all your articles, FB, etc. But, i found focusing on ‘law of attraction’ and more Bryon Katie helped, and the many parts of us, that need to be kept in check. I find your book is great for those ‘who are clear’. But…doesnt help those ‘who are not clear’. Bob Doyles book (find your passion,purpose) was helpful. But…..its… Read more »

Erin Lopes
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Erin Lopes

Hi Joanne… I can garantee you, that this whole “law of attraction” thing is a total BS.
I’ve read the book more than a 100 times (really) and I got into that state of total belief and expectation, I felt it was mine already, I had visualized, over and over, for a whole year… it turns out that all of this wasn’t true.
I guess it’s plain solid luck/coincidence that makes some people think that “the secret” had helped them! I am sorry!

David McGrath
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David McGrath

You may enjoy the book called “Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance” by Jonathan Fields. This book may help you overcome being short circuited in something you wish to pursue.
Topics that were thought provoking: Social creation, eliminating criticism and the “fear of judgement” by “leaning into uncertainty”. Fields provides practical solutions when you experience “resistance” andor thoughts of a “going to zero scenario”

David McGrath
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David McGrath

You may enjoy the following book: “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles.” by Steven Pressfield
My favorite quote is: “We never tell ourselves that we aren’t going to write our symphony, we just tell ourselves that we are going to start tomorrow”

cynthia
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cynthia

This is a great reminder to always think outside the box. I love the Lexus story. Someone asked me at a dinner recently: how do you teach people to think outside the box? I had to think about it for a sec, and then it dawned on me: boredom. When you allow yourself to really feel boredom with how things are going, you will look outside that old tired cardboard comfort zone and think of something new–or consult someone who can help you find that new thing!

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dvgibsonseven

I agree that E + R = O but I think it is 50% + 50% = 100%. Here is a scenario. Please tell me what my reaction should have been. My 5th grader is on a school volleyball team. They have two games scheduled for this team. My daughter was sick for the first game day. The second game day she was to play at 4:30pm in a town 40 miles from the town I work, which is another 20 miles from where we live. My husband left his work at 3pm, drove 20 miles, picked me up at… Read more »

Tuckybuck
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Tuckybuck

You should feel blessed you got to see her play a little bit in the last set. Some people died just driving to work today or found out they have cancer, your “event” wasn’t that bad. If she’s only in 5th grade, there are plenty of more games to come. Before long, you won’t remember anything about 5th grade volleyball I promise. How you react in those situations will stay with your daughter for a lifetime though.

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