Connecting Your Creative Visualization and Motivation

Some people, when they hear the word, “visualization,” think it means sitting around daydreaming.

But that’s not at all what it is…

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Visualization is the practice of intentionally creating detailed pictures in your mind – both still pictures and movies – of the outcomes you want to achieve.

Visualization is a powerful tool that can help motivate you to achieve any goal – such as writing a book, getting a promotion, making more money, paying off your debts, becoming financially independent, taking that dream vacation you want, losing weight, or improving your golf game.

Visualization helps you achieve your goals for several reasons.

Why Visualization Works

Visualization works because it creates something called “structural tension.”

This is a psychological term for something that happens in your subconscious mind when you visualize something that doesn’t exist or hasn’t happened yet.

When you clearly visualize something – and generate all of the emotional feelings you would if you were actually achieving that situation – you experience the same physiological reactions as if you were actually living that experience.

And so your subconscious mind seeks to resolve the tension your visualization has created.

And there are only two ways it can do that – it can either give up the goal or it can figure out how to make it happen.

So if you make it a daily discipline to imagine the end result as already achieved, like brushing your teeth every day, you’ll find yourself making decisions and taking actions that move you in the direction of your goal—even if you’re not consciously aware of it.



A Visualization Example

For example, let’s say you dream of living in Australia for a year.

You imagine yourself getting on the plane, finding a nice place to live on the beach, and spending your days surfing and making friends with the locals.

Every day you take time to imagine yourself living this dream life in Australia.

You imagine how it will feel, who will be there with you, what it will look like, sound like, smell, feel, and taste like.

And before you know it, you start to get creative ideas about how to make this dream a reality.

You find yourself taking actions and making decisions that will help you get to Australia.

You spend your lunch hour researching job opportunities in Australia, and what you need to do to get a visa.

You start to notice more people around you speaking with an Australian accent, and you find yourself striking up conversations with them.

As a result, you make more Australian friends and you are building connections with people who might be able to help you achieve your goals.

You find yourself starting to save money for your big move. And you take advantage of every opportunity that brings you closer to your dreams.

Why? Because the structural tension will create the motivation to actually take the action steps to make it happen.

And it will help you maintain motivation even when you are faced with obstacles and challenges.

How To Start Visualizing

The great thing is, that visualization is a fairly easy skill to master. And you can do it pretty much anywhere – at home, at work, on a bus, or in the park – anywhere you can sit for a few minutes without too much distraction.

All you have to do is close your eyes and imagine yourself experiencing your desired outcome.

Think about:

What goals you want to achieve.

What your life look like when you achieve it.

Where will you be.

What your surroundings look like.

How it feels. What sounds you’re hearing.

What it smells and tastes like.

Your visualization can be created to appear like a movie in your head.

You might even imagine yourself sitting in a theatre, watching it play out like a movie on a screen.

Or it might be like a dream or a video game where you are a part of the action.

However you imagine your vision, immerse yourself in the experience as deeply as you can, so that every detail is as clear as possible, whether it is something you clearly see like a 4D high definition picture or just more like an intense thought you are thinking.

Visualize Daily

I encourage you to engage in this practice every single day.

Do it first thing in the morning, right after you get up, and right before you go to bed at night is ideal.

That way, you go to bed with your goals fixed firmly in your mind, giving your subconscious mind something to work on while you sleep, and you’ll find yourself waking up and starting your day crystal clear on what your goals and priorities are.

Once you make visualization a non-negotiable part of your daily practice, you’ll find it so much easier to stay motivated and focused as you work toward creating your ideal life and making all your dreams come true.

I challenge you to make the commitment to do it every day for 30 days in a row. I guarantee you will begin to see results.

Need help getting your mind free of daily distractions and stress? Download my free 4 Step Meditation Guide to help you relax, and tap into your intuition(even if you’ve never meditated before).

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4 Steps to Take Action On Your Goals

Did you know that 90 % of all New Year’s resolutions never get fulfilled? So if you’re ever found yourself on December 31st, wondering what happened to all of the big goals you set for yourself back on the previous New Year’s Eve, and why you’re not taking action on your goals, you’re certainly not alone.

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“It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well have not lived at all.” – J.K. Rowling

So let’s look at what separates the 10 percent who DO achieve their goals from the vast majority who don’t?

The answer has everything to do with ACTION.

The people who achieve great success in life are the ones who are willing to take consistent action toward realizing their dreams.

They’re the ones who jump out of their seat to get the ball rolling — on the new project at work, the new skill they want to learn, or the promotion they want to get.

They consistently take steps to make their goals happen, no matter what others may think or say about it.

Most importantly, they realize that the decisive moments of their lives aren’t just in the big, once-a-year big scary leaps of faith and goal-setting.

They’re in the countless small decisions they make and actions they take every single day that keep them on target toward achieving their dreams.

Because without regular and decisive action, your goals simply are not going to be achieved. Period.

No matter how ambitious your goals, or how brilliant your plans are for achieving them, if you’re not prepared to take regular consistent action to reach them, they’re not really goals at all—they’re just wishes, fantasies and daydreams.

So today I’d like to share 4 powerful tips for developing an action-focused mindset and lifestyle that will help you make steady and sustainable progress toward your dreams, and guarantee that 2019 is a truly phenomenal year for you.



1. Eliminate ALL Excuses

My first “action tip” is to start by eliminating all your excuses for not taking action.

Because if you’re looking for a reason to delay taking action, you will always be able to find one.

For example, you might tell yourself that you shouldn’t apply for that new position you want because you haven’t been working at the company long enough, and somebody else is probably more qualified for the job.

Or you might tell yourself you to wait before taking on a new project because you should probably do more research and preparation first.

Or you might try to convince yourself that you need more money, resources, or time to get started.

All of these are just excuses you tell yourself to justify your lack of action.

To achieve your goals this year, you have to give up all of your excuses.

Because you will always be able to come up with reasons why you should wait before you start.

But successful people don’t listen to those reasons and excuses.

They are just coming from the part of you that is afraid to fail.

Successful people ignore those voices of fear and just dive in and get to work!

They build momentum by taking action. They learn what they need to know as they do it.

And so should you.

2. Don’t Wait For The Perfect Moment

There is no such thing as the perfect moment.

You might tell yourself that now is not a good time because you’re busy at work, or have a project you’d like to finish first, or there’s too much going on with your family right now.

But there is ALWAYS going to be something going on in your life.

If you want to take action on your dreams, you can’t just wait for the right time to come.

You have to make NOW the right time and just go for it taking whatever steps you can take right now.

3. Take The First Step

The next piece of advice is to simply START by taking that first step.

Because that’s what achieving your goals is – a series of small steps, taken one after another, toward the reality you want to create.

You don’t achieve it all in one fell swoop!

Success is a journey that takes place over time.

And the most important action you will take on that journey is that very first step.

Because once you’ve taken one step, you will find it easier to take the next, and even easier to take the next, and so on.

Just choose to believe you can do it, and start.

One of my favorite quotes is by Dr. Martin Luther King, who said:

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.”

A good example of the truth in that statement is how Nashville singer-songwriter Jana Stanfield started her music career.

When she decided she wanted to be a successful singer, someone advised her to start by taking three easy steps she could not fail at.

So she bought a guitar, signed up for guitar lessons, and went down to the local Holiday Inn Motel and asked the manager, “What is the process that you use to hire people to perform in the lounge?”

After she took those actions, she decided what the next 3 action items would be.

And now she has recorded lots of albums, has written hit songs for top country performers, and performs all over the world by herself, and with superstars like Kenny Loggins.

4. “Fail Forward Faster”

My final piece of advice is to “fail forward faster.” Don’t let fear of failure stop you from taking action.

Instead, recognize that some amount of failure is inevitable.

You’re not going to get everything right the first time.

You are going to make mistakes. And that’s okay!

Making mistakes is how you learn. And the knowledge you gain about what didn’t work is invaluable and will help you get better results with your next attempt.

This is known as “failing forward” — using each failure to launch you closer to your dreams and goals – closer to your vision of your ideal life.

So those are a few tips on how to take start taking action on your goals and make 2019 your most incredible year yet.

Give up your excuses, don’t wait for the perfect moment, make NOW the perfect moment, and focus on taking that one first small step – and then the next, and the next, and the next – while refusing to let the fear of failure stop you in your tracks.

If you follow these tips, you will achieve your new year’s resolutions and so much more this year. I can’t wait to hear about everything you accomplish! Speaking of making 2019 a success, I’ve got a free 12 Month Success Planner you can download by clicking the link below.

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4 Tips to Visualize (And Achieve) Your 2019 Goals

Now is the perfect time to get clear on everything you would like to accomplish in the months ahead.

What big goals would you like to achieve this year? On December 31st, 2019, what do you want to be celebrating?

What do you want to be able to look back on and say, “I can’t believe I did that?”

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And how will you feel, knowing that you accomplished that thing?

In order to make that vision a reality, you need to know what your goals are – and you need to be able to clearly visualize each of those goals as already achieved and what your life will look like once you have achieved them.

Here are four tips that will help you do just that – so you can stay focused and motivated throughout the year as you work on making your dreams a reality.



1. Create an Affirmation for Each Goal

Positive affirmations are simply statements that allow you to experience what your life will look and feel like once you have accomplished a goal.

For example, if one of your goals in 2019 is to lose weight, you could create a positive affirmation that says:

“I’m so happy and grateful now that I weigh 140 pounds and am so much healthier and stronger in my body.”

The key to creating effective affirmations for your goals is to visualize the benefits that you are looking forward to the most — the ones that motivated you to set the goal in the first place — and include them in your affirmation.

For example:

“I am so proud of myself for finishing my book and putting it out there for people to read it.”

“I am so excited and happy to take the kids camping in our beautiful new motorhome.” 

If you identify the benefits that are most important to you and include them in your affirmation — as well as how you’ll feel when you experience those benefits — it will be a powerful motivator for you.

Because the more you repeat your affirmations to yourself, the easier it will be to keep your goals top of mind and be able to imagine yourself actually achieving them — and the more motivated you will be to experience those benefits for yourself.

2. Visualize and Repeat Your Affirmations

My second piece of advice is to take the time to visualize your affirmations when you repeat them to yourself.

Don’t just say them, imagine yourself living the experience your affirmations describe.

To do this, I encourage you to take some time after this video is done to write out a very clear and detailed picture of what your life will look like, and how you will feel, once you achieve your goals.

Really dive into each scenario, and try to paint a complete picture of everything that accomplishing your goal would bring about.

Then bring that vision to mind whenever you repeat your daily affirmations.

You may even want to read your description aloud once a day until you can bring this image easily to mind.

3. Visualize Your Affirmations Daily

More is better…

An easy way to make it part of your daily routine is to get into the habit of doing it when you wake up every morning.

So, you start off your day with your goals top of mind, and then again at night right before you go to bed, so your subconscious will continue to think about your goals and what you must do to achieve them, even while you’re sleeping. 

4. Create a Vision Board

Finally, my last tip is to create a vision board for what you would like to accomplish in 2019.

There’s no better way to visualize your goals than to create an actual visual representation of them.

A vision board allows you to map out your goals in a visual format that reminds you why you’re doing what you’re doing, and what you have to look forward to once your goals are achieved.

You can purchase a vision board kit or make your own vision board from scratch using poster-board or construction paper and images from magazines.

Choose images that represent your goals and what your life will look and feel like once you have achieved those goals.

For example, if one of your goals is to earn more money in 2019, you could put up images such as pictures of the house you want to buy, pictures of the places you want to visit, pictures of happy people strolling on the beach, and so on.

After you’ve filled your vision board with images that do a great job of bringing your goals to life, put it in a place that you will notice it frequently, such as in your bedroom, office, or living room.

This constant visual stimulus will serve to reinforce the importance of your goals in your mind and help you visualize them throughout the entire year.

What is one goal that you want to achieve in 2019 and how are you planning to use visualization to bring it to life? If you want to learn more about the power of affirmations click here to get my free Affirmations Guide.

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How to Achieve Your Missed 2018 Goals in 2019

2018 is coming to an end, and with the New Year comes a time to reflect on the goals you achieved in the previous twelve months – as well how to overcome failure of not achieving some goals in 2018 – because your failures are just as important for your growth as your successes are.

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Failures teach you extremely valuable lessons you need to learn in order to be better able to create the life you want in the future.

But you have to be willing to acknowledge your failures and then analyze them in order to extract new awarenesses and wisdom from them.

Here are 5 tips to overcome failure and achieve your missed 2018 goals in 2019.



1. Forgive Yourself for Not Achieving Your 2018 Goals

It can be all too easy to become judgmental and get down on yourself for what you failed to achieve.

But beating yourself up over missing your goals isn’t going to change the past, and it isn’t going to help you going forward into the future either.

What it will do is negatively impact your self-esteem, your self-confidence, and your motivation.

So start by letting go of any lingering guilt or frustration with yourself, and then turn your attention to what you can learn from the experience.

Now let’s take a look at the goals you failed to accomplish during the previous year.

What exactly were those goals? And what stopped you from accomplishing them?

The first possibility is those goals were what I refer to as SHOULD goals.

Goals you think you should do, but that you don’t really want to do.

Goals like losing weight, working out more often, running a marathon, spending more time with your parents, and learning a foreign language.

You think you should do them, you think they would be good for you, but deep down you’re really not that committed to them.

These are often the goals that keep appearing year after year on your list of goals and never get accomplished.

You want your goals to be things that you really, really want to accomplish – goals that excite you, goals that you can’t wait to get out of bed to work on.

Goals like de-cluttering your office might be a should goal.

Learning to scuba dive or writing your book, or getting your realtor’s license might be something you really want to do.

Make sure to follow your joy.

Ask yourself what lights YOU up.

2. Be 100% Committed to Your Goals in 2019

Another thing that stops goals from being accomplished is not making a 100%, no matter what commitment to achieving a goal when you set it.

Once you have decided what you really want to accomplish, make a 100% commitment to it.

If you were 100% committed at the beginning of the year, but you lost focus at some point and let it slip away from you, that could be a sign that you need to develop a better planning system that allows you to stay on top of your goals and make consistent progress toward them, no matter what else is happening in your life.

If so, that’s a really valuable lesson to learn. And I encourage you to act on that awareness and implement a daily, weekly, and monthly planning system that will help you stay on track toward your goals.

3. Do Not Underestimate The Time Required

This happens all the time – especially when you’re trying to do something you’ve never done before!

You don’t have a clear idea of everything that’s involved in achieving that goal, and so you grossly underestimate how long it will take.

Or, conversely, you will overestimate the time you have will available each week to work on it. Maybe you thought you’d be able to spend 10 hours a week on it, but the reality of your other family, community and work commitments meant that you were only able to spend two or three hours on it every week.

Obviously, it’s going to take you much more time than you thought!  

You either have to adjust the time frame for achieving your goals or throw other resources toward it.

The only resources you ever have are time, money, people, ideas and technology.

If you have less time, you may need to find other partners, employees, contract labor or consultants to assist you.

4. Implement a Better Time Management System

Again, this is a valuable awareness to have, and I encourage you to act on it right away.

Use an online or offline calendar to get really clear on how much time you have available. And look for opportunities to free up more of your time by cutting out activities that aren’t really helping you accomplish your goals.

For example, if you usually spend all afternoon carting your children around to their activities, look for other parents you can share carpool duties with, so you can use that extra freed-up time to work on your goals.

And make sure you have not been majoring in the minors—spending too much time focusing on lower level priorities that don’t have much impact on your results.

For me that was spending too much time on low-level emails that I needed to delegate to my staff.

Also look for ways to prioritize your time more effectively.

For example, you could hire a Virtual Assistant so you can use that time for more important things in your business or your career.  

Or start dictating all your emails using the built-in dictation system in your computer or smartphone.

5. Disappear Fears With Tapping

You can also use EFT Tapping to eliminate limiting beliefs.

You may also have run up against some fears that stopped you.

Take the time to honestly look at what those fears are, and you can also use tapping to literally disappear those fears as well.

Remember, every failure contains a treasure trove of valuable lessons if you take the time to look for them.

So look for the lessons to be learned and implement them in your life as you set your goals for the year ahead — and you’ll make sure that 2019 is a truly phenomenal year for you.

For some additional resources on goal setting, I’ve got a free 12 Month Planner to help you plan 2019 linked below.

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How to Move On & Put Past Hurts Behind You

Everyone makes mistakes and goes through difficult times in life. But it’s not your mistakes or your difficulties that define you, but rather what you learn from them that truly matters. How you think about the past can be an excellent teacher and a great source of motivation for learning how to move on, or it can interfere with your happiness and hold you back from living your best life.

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So, how do you put the past behind you?

Here are four tips I’d like to share with you today to help you heal your old wounds and move on to a better and brighter future.

1. Practice Forgiveness

Whether it’s forgiving yourself for a mistake that you made or forgiving someone who you believe harmed you, forgiveness is one of the best possible things you can do to heal yourself from the past.

You may have heard the saying, “Holding onto anger and resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” It’s true. When you continue to be angry and bitter about something that has happened in the past, the only person you end up hurting is yourself.

So whatever old grudges or disappointments you’ve been nursing, I encourage you to let them go. You will feel a lot better about yourself and about the world around you if you do.



2. Practice Gratitude

Take time every day to feel grateful for everything that is good in your life. And I do mean EVERYTHING.

Be grateful for the people who love you, and who have helped you, mentored you or taught you something on your journey through life. Be grateful for the roof over your head, be grateful for your health, be grateful for the opportunities you’ve been given in life, the flowers blooming outside your window and the blue sky overhead, the things that make your life easier and more enjoyable, and the people who were involved in making those things and bringing them into your world.

The more you cultivate gratitude and appreciation for everything that’s good in your life right now and focus on those things, the easier it will be for you to forget about the things that have hurt you in the past.

And also remember to be grateful for the people that have made your life difficult at times.

It is because of them that you have developed qualities like courage, perseverance, and compassion. Make sure to develop a daily practice of gratitude, whether it is in meditation, writing in your journal, or just walking around and appreciating everything you see for a few minutes in the morning.

3. Remember Your Thoughts Determine Your Reality

So if you want to improve any aspect of your life your life, make the effort to think better thoughts.

Every time you find yourself thinking about something negative that happened in the past, consciously transform that negative thought into something positive.

For example, if you’re thinking, “I can’t believe I wasted all those years on someone who betrayed me!” replace it with the new thought, “I am so happy and grateful I am now free to find someone who truly appreciates me for who I am.”

Learning how to meditate is also a powerful tool that can help you with this. When you meditate, you can simply assume the position of a witness to your thoughts, which always seem to come in a constant stream.

As you become more aware of your thoughts in meditation, you will more easily and more often begin to recognize when you’re going into a negative spiral and be able to then consciously shift your thoughts toward something more positive.

It takes constant vigilance and work, but the ultimate rewards are so worth it.

4. Remember That You Are Amazing

Focusing on the failures of your past can be crippling to your self-esteem, your self-confidence, and your happiness. But the opposite is true as well. When you focus on your past successes, of which there are always many, you build your self-esteem and your self-confidence.

List Your Past Successes

One great way to acknowledge your past successes is to sit down and make a list of your past successes. Here are a couple of ways to do that.

The first one is a simple exercise I call Nine Successes. To do this exercise, simply divide your life into three major time periods.

For example, if you are forty-five years old, the first time period could be birth to 20 years old, the second would be twenty years old to 33 years old, and the third would be from 33 to 45.

Make the first time period from the present until you are 18 or 20 years old, and then divide the rest of your life in half.

Then list three major successes that you accomplished in each time period for a total of nine successes. Don’t discount things like learning to drive, graduating high school, getting your first job, or buying your first car.

They were all big deals at the time.

Once you complete your list, look back over it and remember that if you were able to accomplish those things in your past, then you can accomplish whatever else you want to accomplish now and in the future. Acknowledge the fact that there are plenty of accomplishments in your past to feel good about, and allow that sense of accomplishment to elevate your self-esteem.

List 100 Successes

Another exercise is to make a list of 100 successes you’ve had in your life. Give yourself several days to accomplish this.

Make sure to include all the things that you may now take for granted, like learning to speak a second language, passing that difficult English literature course in college, achieving sharpshooter status in the military, raising a healthy child or learning to grill the perfect steak.

Or things like learning to play an instrument, learning how to type, saving enough money to take that trip to New York or Europe, beating your dad at chess, learning to swim, making Eagle Scout, painting a picture, learning to take great pictures with your camera, getting a promotion, developing a website, figuring out how to use social media like Pinterest and Facebook, helping a political candidate get elected, talking a friend out of committing suicide, getting sober if you were battling some addiction, learning how to bake a cake, coaching your kid’s little league or soccer league team, and so on.

5. Try Tapping Therapy

Finally, one last tool I would like to call your attention to is EFT tapping or tapping therapy.

As many of you know, EFT stands for “emotional freedom technique” and it’s a powerful way to release old thoughts and beliefs, and the feelings those thoughts and beliefs create, that are no longer serving you.

EFT tapping is similar to acupressure in that it focuses on systematically applying light pressure to key energy points on your head and chest to help you release negative thoughts and emotions and energy. It is a very effective tool that I have used with phenomenal results in my own life and the lives of my students.

Given that EFT exists as a tool, there is no reason to stay stuck in the past.

Do have any old wounds from past hurts that you haven’t been able to put behind you? Going forward, what are some of the strategies you will use to heal those wounds?

23 Questions to Celebrate Your Year & Set New Year Goals for 2019

As you set your new year goals for 2019, it’s a good idea to take stock of the progress you’ve made toward your goals this year. For many people, this review is unpleasant and can even lead to a downward spiral.

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If you didn’t achieve all of the goals you set at the beginning of the year, you may feel like you have failed. Our self-esteem can take a hit, we can become disheartened and discouraged, and our motivation drops. Some people actually become depressed.

If this sounds familiar, it’s time to reframe how you look at success. Zeroing in on accomplishments that didn’t happen puts your focus on what you lack, rather than on what you have (the things you did experience and accomplish). This subtle mental trap leads to a host of negative consequences, which usually leads to attracting more lack.

The answer is not giving up the review of your year. Periodic review is essential to the process of growth and goal achievement. The key is to acknowledge, appreciate, and celebrate what you did accomplish, and then to refocus on the goals that you still want to achieve.

Achieving a goal is a lot like flying a plane. You’re guaranteed to be off course 99% of the time, which means that if you want to successfully reach your destination, it is essential to periodically check your position and correct your course. December and January is an ideal time to perform this much-needed review and analysis.

Create a “Win List” For the Year

One of the techniques I teach my coaching clients is to create a detailed “Win List” at the end of the year. Its purpose is to help you acknowledge all of your wins, especially those that didn’t start as a written goal or intention.

This powerful technique takes about 30 minutes to complete. Start by listing all of the goals you set and achieved this year. Then list any other wins you think of – both large and small.

Here are some questions to help identify your successes.

• What wins or progress did you achieve in business?
• Did you discontinue an old product or develop a new product or product line?
• Did you identify a new market to focus on?
• Did you create any new marketing pieces or campaigns?
• Did you delegate any tasks to become more productive? This could include adding new staff and/or assistants, such as a housekeeper, executive assistant, gardener, errand runner, babysitter, or child care person. It also might include putting new systems into place to increase your efficiency.
• Did you buy, use or learn to use any new technology? This includes mental, emotional or spiritual technology, as well as mechanical, electronic and digital technology?
• Did you spend more time in nature?
• Did you develop any new supportive habits (such as meditation, exercise, sleep, or gratitude)? Did you overcome any non-supportive habits (for example, addiction to alcohol, caffeine, sugar, video games, porn, gambling, or shopping)?
• How did you grow in leadership?
• Did you deliver any presentations or speeches or develop new programs?
• Did you develop any new abilities, skills, or competencies?
• What success did you achieve in the areas of financial income, investments, or debt reduction?
• Did you create any new relationships or deepen existing relationships? Consider both business and personal relationships.
• Did you make any progress in self-development?
• Did you attend any positive events (e.g., seminars, lectures, concerts, theater, or sports)?
• Did you experience any positive events with your family?
• Were there any positive events in relation to your house or apartment?
• Did you take any trips or vacations?
• Were there any positive additions to your life?
• Were there any positive events in your community?
• How about any positive events in your spiritual life (e.g., church services, meditation, retreats, rituals)?
• Did you experience any positive events in regards to letting go (e.g., bad habits, negative people, or clutter)?
• Did you have any wins in health and fitness (e.g., weight, exercise, cholesterol, sports, or endurance)?

Reduce Mental Friction

Mental “friction” caused by negative thoughts and feelings will slow down your progress as you work to achieve your goals. By using this technique to focus your attention on what you did achieve, you’ll shift into a state of gratitude and joy, accelerating your momentum into the new year.

Begin Thinking About and Setting New Year Goals for 2019

Once you’ve gone through and written down what your successes are for this year, I want you then to start thinking about setting goals for next year. Goals need to be specific and measurable. How much, and by when? When do you want to accomplish it?

Also, review your long-term goals. Maybe you have a goal to write a book, to become a professor, to become a multi-millionaire. That may be five, or 10 years out. But you want to think about, “What do I have to accomplish in 2019 to make sure I get to my long-term goals.”

Here are 6 areas of your life that I want you to set goals for:

1. Set Goals for Your Financial Life

Have a goal for your financial life. How much do you want to make in 2019? Do you want to have a side income? Maybe you want to be debt free by the end of the year. Think hard about your finances and set a specific and realistic goal for the year.

2. Set Goals for Your Career

Have a goal for your job and career. What do you want to accomplish at work in 2019? Do you want to make more money, get a promotion, or release a new product? Use your win list to evaluate what you want to accomplish this year in your career.

3. Set Goals for Your Relationships

Have at least one goal for the most important relationships in your life. Think about your family, your friends, your significant others. How can you help them achieve more? How can you give back to them? In what ways can you improve these relationships?

4. Set Goals For Fun and Recreation

Have a goal for fun and recreation. Mine is 135 free days in 2019. That means no work from midnight to midnight, including 30 vacation days with my wife.

5. Set Goals for Fitness and Health

What’s a goal for you in terms of health and fitness? It might be running a marathon or achieving your ideal weight. Perhaps it’s to become more flexible or strong. My goal for 2019 is to weigh 195 pounds or less by December 21st, be able to do 40 pushups in a row, do 100 hours of yoga, and improve my posture.

6. Set Personal Goals

Set personal goals for yourself for the year. What is something you want to do, simply because you want to do it? This year, I’m going to commit to two hours a week to learn Spanish so I can talk to the people in Southern California where I live a lot more effectively than I currently do. I’m also going to read 50 books, and totally declutter and reorganize my office and my garage. What’s a personal goal for you?

Tell me in the comments below, what is one big goal you’d like to achieve in 2019? Take time to really think about that. What is a goal that you want to achieve that would help you create an extraordinary life, that will be a breakthrough to a new level for you? This is possible, and I want to help you achieve that.

Remember, review your past year, really realize you’ve achieved a lot, and feel good about that. That’s building the poker chips of self-esteem that will allow you to take the risks you need to take in the new year to create your extraordinary life.

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How Small Steps Make Big Changes

There’s a well-known Chinese proverb that says, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Yet far too many people never even get started on that journey and make big changes to reach their destination.

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A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  – Chinese Proverb

They are afraid to take that first step. Why? Maybe it’s because the journey seems too overwhelming, the goal is too far away, there’s too much that needs to be done, and the exact path isn’t clear.

Or maybe it’s because they get caught up in wanting immediate results in other areas of their life and are distracted from their long-term goals.

But the thing about long-term goals is that they aren’t accomplished in a single day!

It’s not like they require one huge, monumental effort to be achieved.

The only way you’re going to accomplish something really big and ambitious – the kind of goal that will transform your life forever – is by consistently taking one small step at a time in the direction of your dreams.

So today I’d like to share three powerful strategies to help you get started.

1. Use The Rule of 5

The Rule of 5 dictates that every day you should take action on five specific things that will move you closer to achieving your goal.

It doesn’t matter how small these things are. As long as they are action steps that will move you closer to your goal, they are moving you in the right direction.

For example, if you’re running a business, do five things each day that will grow or otherwise improve your business in some way, such as:

  • Create a new ad to run on Facebook
  • Call a potential new client
  • Create a standard operating procedure manual to share with your employees
  • Post something to social media 

and so on…

If you are wanting to get a promotion at work, do five things each day that will make your promotion more likely.

  • Devote an hour of your time to learning a new skill
  • Sign up for some free training,
  • Write a list of points you’d like to make at the next company meeting,
  • Take a colleague out for lunch and ask them for tips on how to improve your performance.

Whatever your goal may be, taking five steps toward reaching it each and every day will eventually yield major progress, and often in much less time than you’d expect.

That’s because of the compound effect of all these small steps.

Taken individually, each small step you take may not seem all that significant. But when you add them up over time, they add up and lead to extraordinary results.

For example, writing a book may seem like a monumental task.

However, what if you committed to writing just one page a day?

By the end of the year, you’d have written a book that’s 365 pages long!

By committing to making small progress each day, you will have turned what otherwise may seem like an insurmountable challenge into something that you can accomplish in a year’s time.

Or let’s say you want to start reading more.

Simply commit to reading two pages a day and by the end of the year, you’ll have read over 700 pages! That’s two or three books you otherwise wouldn’t have read and learned from.

Or you can commit to reading for 20 minutes a day. You can always find 20 minutes a day.

If you read for 20 minutes a day, by the end of the year that adds up to seven thousand three hundred minutes, or 120 hours or three 40-hour work weeks.

That would add up to about 25 books read every year.

Or, let’s say you want to cut back on calories.

If you simply cut out one coke a day, by the end of the year you will have consumed 43,000 fewer calories.

That’s the equivalent of about 20 days of fasting.

This compound effect highlights just how beneficial small steps and changes can be when they add up over time.

Whatever your goals are, if you commit to small, daily progress, chances are you will be astounded by the results.



2. Link New Habits and Behaviors to Existing Actions

My second tip for you is to look for simple ways you can link positive new habits and behaviors to the things you are already doing.

For example, if you want to start working out more, do five pushups after each time you go to the restroom.

Going to the restroom is something you can’t avoid or brush off, and most people go about 6-7 times a day.

This means that if you do five pushups each time you come out of the restroom, you’ll be doing around thirty or thirty-five push-ups every day!

Or you could link 3 minutes of stretching or deep breathing or meditation or drinking 8 ounces of water to each time you go to the restroom.

Or instead of taking the bus to work, maybe you could ride a bike, or walk, or at least get off the bus a couple of stops early.

All of that extra walking or cycling will add up over time. And since you’re going to work anyway, you may as well use that opportunity to fit in some exercise as well.

One of my habits is I always avoid the elevator and walk up one flight of stairs or down two flights of stairs.

One of the hardest parts of taking positive steps toward your goals is getting in the habit of taking those small steps each and every day and making them a non-negotiable part of your schedule.

Small steps can often be easy to brush off or postpone since you may feel like they are insignificant.

But each tiny step you take is bringing you closer to your goals – while each step you DON’T take keeps you exactly where you are.

3. Track Your Progress

Finally, my last tip for you is to keep track of your activities and review your progress regularly.

When your journey involves taking a series of tiny steps over time, it might be easy to overlook the fact of what you’ve actually accomplished.

But when you take time each week to review everything you have achieved, you will be amazed at how far you’ve come – and you will be even more motivated to continue your journey.

What is one big goal that you have that you need to start taking small action steps on every day? If you’re ready to start 2019 by taking action, get my 12-month success planner to start planning.

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4 Tips to Help You Accept & Embrace Change

Whether you perceive it or not, everything is constantly changing – the environment, the weather, the economy, technology, society, culture, your friends and family, your body, everything. And the better able you are to embrace change in what is happening in your world, the easier it will be for you to live your best life.

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“Change is the only constant in life.” – Heraclitus

For some people, the idea of constant and never-ending change is terrifying, because change often involves risk and loss – possibly of something big, like your house, your job, your money, your friends, your family, or just the loss of whatever is comfortable and familiar.

Some people see change as something to fear or dread, instead of something that is a new adventure that has the potential to improve them or their life.

That’s what change actually is: it’s an opportunity for you to experience something new and to grow and evolve as a person.

Change asks you to:

  • Learn new things.
  • Master new skills.
  • Develop new qualities like flexibility, optimism, courage, and persistence.

All of which ultimately results in you becoming a better, more capable person.

And that’s a good thing!

Because the ultimate goal of life is not just a life of comfort, but a life of mastery and mastery only develops when you are confronted with challenges.

When you try to resist change, you rob yourself of the experiences that can transform your life on both a professional and personal level.

When you welcome and embrace change, you open allow yourself to cooperate with the natural evolution that is the reality of existence on earth.



4 Tips to Learn How to Embrace Change

Think of it this way. Change is inevitable. It is like a river flowing downstream, following the law of gravity.

When you resist it, it feels like trying to row upstream during a flood.

When you accept change and embrace it is like easily flowing downstream.

You may still need to row to avoid ramming into a rock or a bridge abutment, but it won’t feel like you are fighting the current. Life gets easier.

So here are a few tips to help you deal with change and embrace change.

1. Event + Response = Outcome

The first one is to take the time to fully understand and apply the equation E+R=O. E+R=O stands for, Event + Response = Outcome.

It is your response to any event, and not the event itself, that determines the outcome you experience.

You can’t change the events that happen. They just occur outside of our control.

As one of my friends like to say, “The world is just out there worlding.”

You can’t stop the rate of technological change occurring in the world.

The Internet, personal computers, smartphones, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Uber, Lyft, Amazon.com, cable television, cryptocurrencies like BitCoin and Etherium are all examples of changes that are events that have happened.

Global warming, floods, droughts, earthquakes, mass migrations of huge populations, trade wars, massive layoffs, mass shootings, terrorist attacks, cyber attacks, and the rise of nationalism and populist leaders are all events that represent change.

As you’ve probably noticed, you cannot do much to change those events.

But you CAN change your response to them and ensure that the outcomes you experience in your life are as positive as possible.

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Now, on a more personal level, let’s say you lose your job.

You could start freaking out over the sudden loss of a guaranteed income each month.

You could blame yourself for not being “good enough,” and fall into a state of hopeless despair that keeps you sitting on your couch, numbing your pain with hours of mindless TV watching.

Or you could choose to see this event as a gift, as your chance to pursue a new opportunity that’s more in alignment with your deeper goals and dreams – and use your newly liberated time and energy to develop the skills and expertise you’ll need to create your ideal life!

Whenever a change happens that seems like a tragedy, always remember there is a gift in it.

“Every negative event contains the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill

I have many friends and clients who have lost their homes and all their possessions to a flood or a fire, have lost their loved ones to divorce, suicide, drug overdoses and automobile accidents, who’ve lost their jobs due to mergers, layoffs due to the recession, or to new technologies that made their jobs obsolete.

And in every case, years later they looked back and realized that those seemingly tragic events were turning points in their lives that led them to something far better than what they had before – a better job, a more fulfilling relationship, new friends, deeper wisdom, more freedom, the discovery of their true life purpose, the development of new skills, and spiritual growth.

I can remember in my own life when I was in my mid-twenties, I was working at a government training center in Iowa when the government decided to shut it down.

At the time I thought it was the end of the world.

I loved the job, and I loved the people working there. I was devastated.

But what ultimately happened was that a month later I was taking a workshop in Chicago run by people who worked for W. Clement Stone who was a close friend of Napoleon Hill.

When they found out I was being laid off, they offered me a job, which is where I began to learn about so many of the things that I teach today.

Things like:

If I hadn’t lost that job, I might still be working in a small training center in Iowa.

Take a moment later today and think back to some change that you feared or resisted and all the good that eventually came from it.

Once you begin to see that, you can begin to anticipate the good that will come from the changes you are facing now.

A good question to always be asking yourself is, “What’s the opportunity that this is?”

If you look, you will find it.

And change will become something to appreciate and embrace rather than to fear and resist.

Remember, YOU always have control over how you choose to respond to things.

And when you respond with an attitude of curiosity, optimism, and confidence, you’ll find it so much easier to survive and thrive during the change.

2. Always Create Positive Outcomes

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

My second piece of advice is to believe it’s possible to create positive outcomes no matter what change is happening around you.

Your mind is a very powerful instrument, and when you learn how to properly use it, you can create anything and everything you want. And the first step is to choose to believe that what you want is possible.

A belief is simply a thought you consciously choose to think over and over until it becomes automatic.

It’s true that most of our beliefs were decided or programmed into us as children, but you have the power to choose to believe a more empowering belief simply by choosing it.

And you can delete old beliefs very quickly with so many new techniques that have been created in the past few decades like EFT, Byron Katie’s work, the Sedona Method, and the Heart Freedom Method that I use in my workshops.

So, when you find yourself faced with a big change that feels overwhelming or scares you, stop and take the time to imagine the best possible outcome that could result from that change – and then simply choose to believe that you have the capacity to make that vision a reality.

Because you do!

3. Use the Power of “Acting as if”

See yourself as already being the kind of person who can successfully adapt to any kind of change – and then start showing up in the world as that person.

How would you walk, how would you talk, how would you dress, what thoughts would you think, how would you interact with people?

I observed a good example of the power of acting as if a number of years ago when I was living in Pacific Palisades, California.

I used to do my banking with Wells Fargo.

There was a young teller at the bank who started to catch my attention each time I went to the bank.

There were several tellers working there at the time, and I noticed this one in particular because he always wore a suit and tie.

Unlike the other two male tellers who just wore a shirt and a tie without a suit coat, this young man had already started to dress and look like an executive.

A year later, I noticed he had been promoted to his own desk where he was taking loan applications.

Two years later, he was a loan officer, and later he became the branch manager.

I asked him about this one day, and he replied that he always knew he would be a branch manager, so he studied how the manager dressed and started dressing that way.

He studied how the manager treated people and started interacting with people the same way.

He started acting as if he were a branch manager long before he ever became one.

You can adopt this same attitude to any situation you find yourself facing.

Ask yourself, “What kind of person do I need to be in order to achieve the best possible outcome?”

What thoughts do I need to think?

What pictures do I need to visualize?

How do I need to behave and what do I need to do?

And then start showing up as that person now.

4. Acknowledge Your Fears, and Take Action

Give yourself permission to acknowledge and experience whatever fears show up along the way, and then take action anyway.

When you’re faced with big changes, you may need to take a huge leap into the unknown. And that can be scary; I get it!

Even I have fears that arise sometimes when I take on a new challenge that I’ve never tackled before! But just because you are entering into unknown territory, that doesn’t mean it’s bad.

It could be the best thing that’s ever happened to you. And if you approach it as such, you greatly increase the likelihood that it will be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.

So allow yourself to feel the fear – and don’t let it stop you.

Take one small step after another into the unknown – and you will be surprised at how quickly the path forward will become clear to you, and entirely achievable.

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How to Achieve Any Goal With the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is one of the most powerful laws in the universe. Just like gravity, it is always influencing your life and reality. And once you are aware of it you can leverage it to create the life of your dreams.

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Simply put, the Law of Attraction says that you attract into your life whatever you focus on and feel strongly about.

So, if you focus on the good and positive things in your life, you will automatically attract more of those things into your life.

If you focus on lack and negativity, then that is what you will attract more of into your life. It’s that simple – and that powerful.

Because once you understand how the Law of Attraction works, you can begin to consciously and intentionally change your results and create a better life.

You can begin to choose to respond differently to the situations that arise during your day.

You can choose to think differently by focusing on the things that fill you with joy and purpose.

And you can choose to create the future you want simply by intentionally taking the time to focus on what you want your life to look and feel like – instead of unconsciously living life by default, often creating the exact opposite of what you want.

The fact is, you are constantly creating your own reality at every moment.

Your thoughts determine your feelings, your feelings determine your actions, and your actions determine your reality – so if you want to create a better reality, you have to start by thinking better thoughts.

Because when you are clear about what you want, and you put those clear intentions out into the universe, the resources, the people, and the opportunities you need to achieve your goals will start appearing to you, almost like magic.

Chances are they were there all along, but because you weren’t clear on what you wanted, you never noticed them.

Once you activate the Law of Attraction through your intentional thoughts, these resources and opportunities will light up like neon signs saying, “Here I am! Let’s do this thing!”



Achieve Your Goals With the Law of Attraction

So here are six simple tips on how to more effectively make the Law of Attraction work for you instead of against you.

1. Your Thoughts are Powerful

Remind yourself daily that your thoughts are powerful. They have a very real impact on the world around you.

Your thoughts determine your actions, and your actions declare your intentions to the universe. And the universe will respond to those intentions.

So if you want the better results, you have to think and behave in a way that is in alignment with what you ultimately want to be, do, and have in life.

I suggest you put a 3×5 card or a post-it on your bathroom mirror that says, “The thoughts I think today are creating the reality I will experience in the future.”

2. Dream Big

Don’t censor your dreams or limit your vision with practicalities and probabilities.

You will not be given a dream that you are not capable of achieving. So if you can imagine it, you have the capacity to make it a reality. You don’t need to know every single step of the journey.

Just decide what you want. Know that you deserve it. Believe you can have it, and then take one small step toward it. Then another, and another, and another.

With every step, your path will become clearer to you.

3. Clarify Your Goals

Get really, really clear on what you want your life to look like. Write it all down in as much detail as possible.

The more specific you are about what you want in life, the easier it will be for you to make it a reality.

4. Use Positive Affirmations

Use positive affirmations to keep yourself focused on your goals and to raise your vibrational frequency up to match the frequency of the reality you want to create.

Affirmations work by purposely replacing the limiting beliefs and negative self-talk that you have internalized over the years with positive statements that assert who you want to be and how you want to experience life.

Make sure to phrase your affirmations in the present tense, as if you have already achieved your goals and are living the life of your dreams, and also make sure to include a strong positive emotion in the affirmation, such as gratitude, that you will not only say when you repeat your affirmation but also choose to feel when you are repeating the affirmation.

For example:

“I am so happy and grateful now that I own a six-figure business and I get to spend every day doing something I love!”

Positive affirmations are a powerful tool for self-transformation and a key element in creating the life you desire.

When you make a habit of repeating them daily, you will be amazed at how much easier it will be to stay focused on your dreams and attract what you need to make them come true.

5. Open Yourself Up to Infinite Possibilities

Start by becoming more aware of the amazing synchronicity that already exists in your life.

Look for the miracles – the magically serendipitous events and opportunities that seem to appear out of nowhere at just the right time to bring you closer to your goals.

The more you watch for them, the more you will notice them happening all the time, and when you acknowledge them, you will attract even more of them. That’s the power of the Law of Attraction at work for you!

6. Take Action!

Take positive action to create what you want. When you have an idea of something to do, do it, and do it as soon as possible.

All of the best intentions in the world won’t mean much if you don’t take action when the time comes to make them a reality!

That’s why it’s so important to take at least one or more small actions every day that will move you closer to the fulfillment of your dreams.

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How to Use Tapping Therapy To Eliminate Fear & Achieve Your Goals

Visualization Techniques to Affirm Your Desired Outcomes

Don’t Ignore Signs From the Universe

The universe works in mysterious ways. It is constantly working to make available to you the tools, the resources, the people, and the lessons you need to become the person you were meant to be which is why it’s so important to pay attention to signs from the universe.

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But, the universe doesn’t always make these things totally obvious, or even always easy.

You might need to go through bankruptcy in order to finally learn the money lessons you need to create a life of true financial abundance.

You might have to get laid off or fired from a job you don’t like, in order to find the job you love.

Or you might have to go through a painful breakup before you’re ready to meet and fall in love with the love of your life.

You might feel at times as if you’re a newspaper caught up in the wind, being blown about with no clear direction.

But if you start paying attention, you will realize that the universe is sending you signals all the time that show you where you need to go and what you need to do to create the life of your dreams.

Here are five powerful signs from the universe to pay attention to that will help you understand what you’re meant to do to become the person you are meant to be.

1. Does it Bring You Joy?

The first clue I’d like you to focus on is the experience of JOY. I always tell my students and clients that joy is the ultimate “GPS system.”

When you experience true joy, it’s a sign you are on the right track and doing what you are meant to be doing.

On the other hand, when you are not doing what you are supposed to be doing, you might feel dissatisfied or deeply unhappy with your life.  

If you‘re not happy with your job, or where you are living, or any other aspect of your life, that may be the universe telling you that it’s time to make a change.

The change might be an external change like quitting your job, or it might be an internal change like changing how you are approaching your job.

As you move through life, start paying close attention to the times when you are experiencing joy.

That’s the universe telling you, THIS is what you are meant to be doing. And once you know what that is, you can start looking for more opportunities to create that in your life.

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2. Physical Pain

Pay attention to is any physical pain you might experience.

The whole purpose of pain is to alert your body to the fact that something is not right. So the sooner you pay attention, the sooner you can heal whatever physical ailment might be bothering you.

Sometimes, though, the thing that’s bothering you may not be a problem with your physical body.

Instead, it might be the physical manifestation of stress, anxiety, or an unhealed emotional wound.

So if you ever experience pain that you can’t get to the bottom of, it’s probably a sign that some belief you are hanging on to, or some thought you are thinking, or some emotion you’re not expressing, or something you are doing or not doing isn’t working, and that the universe is using physical pain as a way to draw your attention to it.

Far too often, we’re taught from childhood to ignore pain or to “grin and bear it,” or to numb it out with painkillers, alcohol or drugs.  

But pain should never be ignored or totally suppressed with drugs or alcohol. I’m not talking about post-surgical pain or the pain from a broken finger or a sprained ankle.

Temporary painkillers are useful in that situation. But you especially want to pay attention to chronic pain.

It could be related to something you shouldn’t be eating, some emotions you are not dealing with, or some situation that you need to address that you are avoiding.

Unfortunately, a lot of people numb out their pain of an unfulfilling or abusive relationship or mind-numbing, soul-killing job with alcohol, pot or even heavier drugs.

The problem is that numbing out your pain is like taking the battery out of your smoke detector because the noise it is making is annoying you.

Just like the smoke detector, your physical pain is sending you a message that you need to pay attention to.

Whether that message is telling you that something is wrong in your body or that something is wrong in your life, it’s important to listen to it and take action to resolve it.

3. Something Stuck in Your Head

The third signal I encourage you to pay attention to is anything that gets stuck in your head – like a song that won’t stop playing in your mind, or a recurring dream you keep having.

For example, if you have “I Can’t Get No Satisfaction” from the Rolling Stones stuck in your head, you might be getting a message from your subconscious that you are frustrated with the lack of satisfaction in your life and need to make some changes to increase your happiness.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a song stuck in my head, only to realize that that particular song had the exact message I needed to hear at that moment in time.

If you open your mind to receiving messages such as this, you’ll notice the same thing.

Or if you keep having a dream where you’re back in high school and you have to take a test that you haven’t studied for, maybe that’s a sign that you feel unprepared or unqualified in your job.

If that’s the case, it might be time to invest in more training to level up your knowledge and your skills.

4. Listen to Your Inner Voice 

Another important signal I encourage you to start paying more attention to is your own inner voice or intuition.

When you need to make a decision and you’re not certain what to do, take time to inquire within.

Because the truth always is, that you already have the answer inside you, you’re just not aware of it yet.

Now, that little voice inside you might be hard to hear at times.

One way to make it easier to hear is to meditate regularly.

When you take time to clear your mind of the endless monkey chatter that keeps it so distracted all day long, you’ll find it easier to hear the inner truth that lives deep inside you.

If you don’t know how to meditate, here’s a blog to get you started.

5. Ask the Universe

Finally, remember that you can simply ask the universe what it’s trying to tell you.

The universe’s communication with you is not a one-way street. If you are ever at a loss for the direction you should take in a specific circumstance, take a moment to ask for guidance.

How you do this is up to you. You may want to pray for guidance to whatever Higher Power you believe in, whether you call it God, Source, Spirit, the Universe, or Infinite Intelligence.

Or you may prefer to ask the universe to send you a clear sign.

The more you open yourself to “the powers that be,” (however you choose to define that), the easier it will be for you to find the answers you seek.

Take a moment to write down all the times you’ve ever felt true joy in your life. What is that joy telling you, and how can you bring more of it into your life?

Also be sure to write down any other signals you think the universe is sending you. Maybe you feel stuck at your job, or you’re frustrated with a toxic person in your life, or you’re experiencing some sort of physical pain. What messages is the universe sending you?

Leave a comment below with your thoughts. If you’d like to learn more about the universe and the Law of Attraction click the button below to get a guide.

3 Wealth Lessons I Learned After Becoming a Millionaire

I actually became a millionaire quite suddenly, almost overnight. If you’re wondering how to become a millionaire or want to be a millionaire one day, you may find it helpful to learn these lessons.

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“Money is usually attracted, not pursued.” —Jim Rohn

As a result of becoming a millionaire so fast, I didn’t have a lot of time to adjust to suddenly having much more money than I was used to. It happened very fast after the success of the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book took off.

That experience taught me 3 powerful lessons about money and being a millionaire.

1. Money Doesn’t Change You Much

The first thing I learned was that money doesn’t change you as much as you’d think.

You’ve heard the saying, “Money can’t buy happiness.” It’s true.

If you were happy before you had money, you’re going to be happy when you have money. If you were unhappy before you had money, having money isn’t going to make you feel any happier or any more fulfilled.

We all know people who have very little money who are very happy and we all know people who have a lot of money and are very unhappy. Money really has nothing to do with it.

At the same time, there are certain things that money definitely helps with…

Money can help you handle unexpected expenses more easily.

It can help you give your kids a good education, or provide you and your loved ones with better healthcare.

It alleviates certain hardships, and that’s a really good thing about it.

But even though money can change the world around you, it won’t change YOU.

Who you are, how you see the world and interact with it – all that stays the same.

So if you’re afraid of attracting money into your life because you’re worried it’s going to change you in some way, don’t be. Having money tends to amplify the person you already are.

If you’re a good person who wants to make a positive impact in the world, you can do a lot more good things with your money. You can fund a lot of great projects.

If you’re a terrible person who only thinks about yourself, you’ll just be a terrible person with a lot of money. We’ve all met or read about those people.

And remember, it’s never too late to change the way you think about money. I was 51 when I received my first $1,000,000 check. Here’s a video about that:

2. Money Can Make You Uncomfortable

The second lesson I learned is, having more money than other people can make you very uncomfortable.

Two years after the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book came out, I made $6,000,000 dollars in a year.

That was a major amount of money and it made me very uncomfortable. I actually felt some guilt around it and had to wrestle with my own sense of worthiness.

I wasn’t sure I deserved that kind of money when so many people in the world had nothing.

Not only that – I noticed that even though I hadn’t changed, the way some people related to me did.

In the eyes of many, Jack Canfield the multimillionaire was a very different person than Jack Canfield the relatively successful speaker and coach.

And having people treat me differently all of a sudden was a very uncomfortable experience. I did eventually get used to it, as I became more comfortable being a person with money. But it took some time.  

3. Money Makes You Look at Your Values

And the final lesson I learned when I became a millionaire is this: money forces you to look at what you truly value.

As I became more comfortable with having money, I had to take responsibility for it and decide what to do with it.

I had figure out what was most important to me, what were my values, and what did I really care about.

What I discovered was that I felt a strong responsibility to use my money for good.

But how?

Did I want to give my money to a school like Harvard, where I had graduated from – or give it to support homeless kids living in Santa Barbara where I live?

I ultimately decided to help build schools in Africa because my background and my values lie in education, and to support organizations dedicated to environmental sustainability to provide a future world where my grandchildren could survive in. That’s how I chose to give back.

I sat down with my family and together we decided what charities we were going to donate money to. It was a great opportunity to educate my kids on good money habits and the responsibilities of having money.

On Buying Too Much “Stuff”

Of course, there is also the danger of buying too much “stuff” when you have money.

People who suddenly have a lot of money may be tempted to make a lot of big purchases and surround themselves with way too much “stuff” they don’t really need.

When I first became wealthy, I went through a phase that I call my “nouveau riche stage”, in which I spent too much money on nice sweaters and clothing.

And at one point we even had a personal chef cooking all our meals. But I ended up gaining too much weight from having a chef and my wife became aware that she valued her privacy in the home more than the convenience of having someone else do all the cooking, so we decided to spend our money in ways that better served us.

So when it comes to spending your money in a way that truly makes you happy, you really need to examine yourself, your values and your priorities, and decide what it is you truly want.

Remember that it’s okay for money to make you uncomfortable, but that’s just because it’s exposing you to new situations beyond your current comfort zone.

It’s not significantly going to change YOU in any way.

But, if you want to be smart with your money and use it to create a life you truly love, put your money where your values lie. Use it to make a positive impact and create the kind of world you want to live in. That’s how you create a life of true purpose, deeper meaning, and abundance.

Develop a Millionaire Mindset

Here’s a great way to help you develop a millionaire mindset.

I want you to play the Millionaire Game. From this point forward, I encourage you to act as if you were already a millionaire or multi-millionaire.

How would you feel when you woke up in the morning?

What would your intention or purpose be for the day?

What would your mindset and outlook be?

How would you interact with your family, friends, coworkers, clients, and customers if you were already a millionaire?

How would you walk and talk, and how would you hold your body?

Fully visualize how you would move through the world as a millionaire – and then start acting that way today.

One of the most powerful exercises I often do in my live seminars and training is to have people stand up and mill around the room, interacting with each other as if they were already millionaires. At the end of the exercise, I ask them if they feel any different.

Everyone always reports that they feel more confident, more outgoing, happier, more enthusiastic and more energized.

Yet they hadn’t really become millionaires except in their minds!

And we know from the Law of Attraction when you feel, talk and act like a wealthy person, you attract more wealth and abundance into your life. The energy you put out into the universe will help you attract the people, the resources, and the opportunities to actually make that dream of wealth and abundance a reality.

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