Jack Canfield

Reprinted recorded conversation with Jack Canfield on the quesiton:

How have you dealt with indecision when the choices are major and there is fear of making a wrong decision?

Jack:  The first answer is in most cases no decision is worse than a bad decision. By that I mean, it freezes you up, you're not taking action and you're stuck. When you're in a state of indecision a couple of things are possible.

One is you're afraid of making the wrong decision, which I think is what’s going on here, because she said that in the second sentence, and to get that you can’t make a wrong decision.

You can make a decision that doesn't necessarily give you the exact outcome that you’d want. You can marry a person that you discover later this isn’t my perfect, ideal life partner. You could invest in something that doesn't pan out economically. You could take a job and later learn you're not happy working there. You could do all kinds of things and say later that was a bad decision, but not necessarily.

Sometimes you have to make a decision to find out what doesn't work. You have to go down that road and find out there’s a cul-de-sac at the end of it in order to know this is the road I want to spend the rest of my life on.

There’s very little in life that’s irreversible. Obviously, if you make a decision to drive drunk and you end up losing your legs in an accident it is going to have a huge impact on your life. Those kinds of decisions are things you have to look at very carefully.

Most of what goes on in life, whether it’s a marriage partner, business partner whether I should move to South America or not, are decisions that are reversible. You can get into them and decide this isn’t the path I want to be on.

You can be climbing up a mountain like Mt. Everest and at some point decide this is a little harder than I thought, the winds are coming in and the snow is starting to happen I don’t want to risk my life, so I think I’m going to get off this mountain.

That might be a smart move and that doesn't make you a bad decision maker. It just makes you someone that climbed a mountain that climbed when there was a storm.

You always learn something when you take a path or make a decision. You're going to learn how to do it better next time. Maybe you got involved with a network marketing company and after a year decided this wasn’t the company for you. Now, if a new company comes along that attracts you know a lot more about network marketing than you did before.

The same is true about relationships. You're a much better chooser. You know what works and what doesn't in terms of creating intimacy, and having equity in a relationship, so I would say lighten up about it in the first place and know there’s nothing that is going to trap you forever.

Secondly, use a number of tools that we teach kinesiology, muscle testing. Our body and our heart knows a lot more than our brain does we know that now. There is a part of us that is tapped into infinite wisdom through out intuition, meditation and learning how to communicate with our body.

I teach something called ‘Somatic Decision-Making’ where you learn, my body moved in one direction. If I ask a question, yes might mean I lean forward, a no answer might mean I lean back. We learned how to do that from a previous call.

You can ask yourself a question and let your body respond. You can learn how to do it through meditation where you ask a question, go to a deep state of mediation and say is this for my highest good. You can let a wise person, being or angel and answer the question.

The main thing is that you have to get out of fear. You can’t make a good decision from fear. Fear will paralyze you. There’s a great quote, ‘Fear is the mind killer; it kills the ability of the mind to work.’

Visualize what you want and if you hold a visual of what you want for 30 days as we’ve talked about before, you will attract to you the right decision, people, books and resources that can give you wisdom and advice in terms of making the right decision.

Focus on what you want and don’t worry about it so much; lighten up.

Lastly, once you’ve made a decision never second-guess it. If you get feedback later on that this isn’t making you feel good, change. Once you’ve made a decision go forward boldly, with a enthusiasm and passion and don’t be second-guessing it every five minutes. Did I make the right decision, because that will undermine any possibility of having that decision work for you?

Watch for feedback. We teach about the importance of feedback. Listen to your body, your emotions and notice what happens. Are you making money or not? Are you feeling better or not and then you can respond?

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